A month ago Earl and I
volunteered to host an appreciation dinner for the Christian Education workers
in our church. By now you know we love to feed people and I had grand dreams of
a warm June evening with candles and good food and a chance to express
appreciation for everything these wonderful people do for the kids in our
church and community. Oh it was going to
be beautiful...
Enter reality. The Saturday before Memorial day I was out in
the yard, and as I turned around to go back to my weeding after talking to
Earl, I
rolled my left ankle in such a way that I actually heard it crunch. Not
good, but I figured it was sprained. I grabbed a comfy chair and the darling
husband brought me ice for it and I chatted with him while he finished what he
was doing. By the next morning I knew I needed to have it looked at and a quick
trip to the E.R. confirmed my fear, I had broken my foot.
They wrapped it, handed me crutches and sent me on my way until I could
see an Orthopedic Dr.
Have you ever tried to carry
anything while on crutches? The problem
is your hands are already full, so I found myself unable to help prepare for
the party that was to be held in our back yard on June 7. Oh, I drove myself
crazy for the next two weeks! I couldn't so much as pick up the house, Earl
worked 50+ hours a week, did the cooking and cleaning and almost everything else single handed. We shopped for the food and
other things we needed to feed 30 people and I prayed for good weather.
So last night was the
party. No rain but June in Michigan and
by 10 a.m. it was only 54 degrees outside! I had friends who graciously came
and set things up while I directed from crutches. The wind blew, by 2 p.m. it had
topped out at 60 degrees. There was no
going back. People were going to freeze.
I ditched the idea of lining the center
of the table with votive candles, they would blow out in an instant. I had one of my
helpers grab the lanterns I had used for Lauren’s reception and used them
instead. They hung some paper lanterns but we were all
pretty discouraged and didn't hang nearly as many as I had planned. I retreated
to the house feeling like a helpless failure.
All my grandiose dreams of glory shot down by a broken foot and a cold
summer day. I abandoned my camera in disgust.
But you know what? By 7 p.m.
the wind had died down, people wore sweaters, we made hot coffee and served hot
food. The evening began to grow dark and the lights in the lanterns and the
twinkle lights on the fence began to glow. The wonderful, beautiful crew of
teens who had volunteered to serve worked hard to make sure that everyone had
what they needed and felt cared for, (How I love those kids! I wanted to give
each one a huge hug and kiss, but knowing how teens feel about that I
refrained. But in my heart, oh I hugged and kissed the dickens out of
them:>) And it was beautiful. It was
perfect. And I let go of trying to live up to a styled image on Pinterest and
enjoyed the happiness of the people around us as they celebrated their work,
and friendship and service. As the light grew dim, the paper lanterns glowed
and the lights behind the stand of Siberian iris twinkled on the fence. The
last of the guests left around 10 p.m. not put off one bit by the chilly
evening.
So this morning I got
“morning after” shots. There is a kind of beauty to seeing the remnants of a
night spent with friends and loved ones. We have some great memories, and
judging by the comments as people left, so will they.
Pinterest is great
inspiration, and sometimes it is hard to remember that most of those photos are
styled for hours under ideal conditions and captured by professionals. I will
still be addicted. But I hope in the
future I can relax my insane expectations to match reality. What people want is not the perfect photo op
party, they want good food, and the feeling that someone cared enough to make
the night special.
Not perfect, just special.
Not perfect, just special. Its own kind of perfect. This is a lesson to all of us to let go and let God, as the saying goes. Your event was a blessings to all who were there, I am sure.
ReplyDeleteWell put and so true. Hope that ankle is healing quickly!
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't have to be perfect, special is enough. You and all your guests will have lovely memories of a great evening.
ReplyDeleteHope your ankle mends quickly.
Oh I am so sorry about your foot Kathy!! I hope it heals quickly and you are moving about on your own real soon.
ReplyDeleteYour evening sounds absolutely perfect just the way it was. :0)
How awful about your foot. I do hope it heels quickly. But your party sounds like it turned out just fine. Take care, Cindy
ReplyDeleteSorry about your foot. And glad your party turned out good. Nothing we as humans do is ever perfect so why do expect that in ourselves? It only leads to disappointment. I've found that out the hard way many times. You'd think I'd learn forever but...
ReplyDeleteI tend to be a perfectionist and have a very hard time letting go and letting others do for me...so I know what you were going through. It sounds like it turned out wonderful Kathy...you gave from your heart and it was surely appreciated. Hope your foot heals fast!
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Penny
It looks pretty darn perfect to me!! Your husband is a champ and you are a great team!!
ReplyDeleteAs much as I adore Pinterest, it does lead to a distorted view that everyone has pefect homes, clothes, hair etc. So sorry to hear about your foot...OUCH!! xoxo
Kathy, this is such a wonderful post on true hospitality. A recent sermon at my church involved hospitality and the importance of community over perfectness. I've had more people over in the past 4 weeks than I have in a year, several times impromptu with a dirty house and a very basic menu. Sounds like your party was perfect. Hope your foot mends well!
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about your ankle!! I hope it heals well.
ReplyDeleteOh I have perfectionist tendencies that I have to self-talk myself out of all the time! It sounds like everyone had a wonderful time and you had some great helpers!
I'm sorry to hear about your foot. Take care and get well and bask in the memories of the beautiful time you spent with dear friends. I'm trying to learn to do simple things so I can relax and enjoy relationships instead of fussing about details.
ReplyDelete~Adrienne~
So very true (what you said at the end about what people want). I'm sorry to hear about your foot!
ReplyDeleteVery nice! :)
ReplyDeleteHave a beautifully blessed week...
Jayma | http://JaymasTips.blogspot.com
OOO, I am sooo sorry your foot is broken. Bless your sweet heart.
ReplyDeleteNow, for the party...I KNOW it was wonderful. Your adorable attitude MUST rub off on others, making the time together extra special...wind or no wind...coolness or hot...Pinterest or no....:))
Take good care....
xo bj
OOO, I am sooo sorry your foot is broken. Bless your sweet heart.
ReplyDeleteNow, for the party...I KNOW it was wonderful. Your adorable attitude MUST rub off on others, making the time together extra special...wind or no wind...coolness or hot...Pinterest or no....:))
Take good care....
xo bj
So sorry about your foot! I've been there, and know how difficult it is to do anything except hang on to those crutches!
ReplyDeleteYour evening sounded just lovely - you're so right about what really counts! and I love the twinkle lights along the fence.
::Jill
OHHHH!!! SO sorry about your foot!
ReplyDeleteI was just reading out loud to Bert as your story unfolded.
I like the way the party happened so sweetly and I thrive at 60 degrees myself!
I pray for you some quick healing and lots of creative sitting :)
Hi Kathy,
ReplyDeleteWhat gorgeous photos, everything looks beautiful. Yes, I have broken my ankle twice. But I learned a secret about crutches...tie your oven mitts to the handles and you can use them as pockets to carry some things.
I hope that you have a speedy recovery. Breaking your foot is a painful thing, but maybe you'll be able to rest a bit more.
Karen
Hi Kathy,
ReplyDeleteJust stopped back to find out how your foot was healing. Love your new header Kathy.
Have a lovely evening.
Karen
Oh Kathy, I just know the evening was beautiful regardless of what you had dreamed of-just from the few photos it looks fabulous! I'm so sorry about your foot, that just stinks. I'll be praying for a speedy recovery!
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