Saturday, June 8, 2013

A Beautiful Night

A month ago Earl and I volunteered to host an appreciation dinner for the Christian Education workers in our church. By now you know we love to feed people and I had grand dreams of a warm June evening with candles and good food and a chance to express appreciation for everything these wonderful people do for the kids in our church and community.  Oh it was going to be beautiful...
 
Enter reality.  The Saturday before Memorial day I was out in the yard, and as I turned around to go back to my weeding after talking to Earl,  I  rolled my left ankle in such a way that I actually heard it crunch. Not good, but I figured it was sprained. I grabbed a comfy chair and the darling husband brought me ice for it and I chatted with him while he finished what he was doing. By the next morning I knew I needed to have it looked at and a quick trip to the E.R. confirmed my fear, I had broken  my foot.  They wrapped it, handed me crutches and sent me on my way until I could see an Orthopedic Dr.

 
Have you ever tried to carry anything while on crutches?  The problem is your hands are already full, so I found myself unable to help prepare for the party that was to be held in our back yard on June 7. Oh, I drove myself crazy for the next  two weeks!  I couldn't so much as pick up the house, Earl worked 50+ hours a week, did the cooking and cleaning and almost everything else single handed.  We shopped for the food and other things we needed to feed 30 people and I prayed for good weather. 
So last night was the party.  No rain but June in Michigan and by 10 a.m. it was only 54 degrees outside! I had friends who graciously came and set things up while I directed from crutches. The wind blew, by 2 p.m. it had topped out at 60 degrees.  There was no going back.  People were going to freeze. I  ditched the idea of lining the center of the table with votive candles, they would blow out in an instant. I had one of my helpers grab the lanterns I had used for Lauren’s reception and used them instead.   They hung some paper lanterns but we were all pretty discouraged and didn't hang nearly as many as I had planned. I retreated to the house feeling like a helpless failure.  All my grandiose dreams of glory shot down by a broken foot and a cold summer day. I abandoned my camera in disgust.
But you know what? By 7 p.m. the wind had died down, people wore sweaters, we made hot coffee and served hot food. The evening began to grow dark and the lights in the lanterns and the twinkle lights on the fence began to glow. The wonderful, beautiful crew of teens who had volunteered to serve worked hard to make sure that everyone had what they needed and felt cared for, (How I love those kids! I wanted to give each one a huge hug and kiss, but knowing how teens feel about that I refrained. But in my heart, oh I hugged and kissed the dickens out of them:>) And it was beautiful.  It was perfect. And I let go of trying to live up to a styled image on Pinterest and enjoyed the happiness of the people around us as they celebrated their work, and friendship and service. As the light grew dim, the paper lanterns glowed and the lights behind the stand of Siberian iris twinkled on the fence. The last of the guests left around 10 p.m. not put off one bit by the chilly evening.

So this morning I got “morning after” shots. There is a kind of beauty to seeing the remnants of a night spent with friends and loved ones. We have some great memories, and judging by the comments as people left, so will they.
 Pinterest is great inspiration, and sometimes it is hard to remember that most of those photos are styled for hours under ideal conditions and captured by professionals. I will still be addicted.  But I hope in the future I can relax my insane expectations to match reality.  What people want is not the perfect photo op party, they want good food, and the feeling that someone cared enough to make the night special.
 Not perfect, just special.


20 comments:

  1. Not perfect, just special. Its own kind of perfect. This is a lesson to all of us to let go and let God, as the saying goes. Your event was a blessings to all who were there, I am sure.

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  2. Well put and so true. Hope that ankle is healing quickly!

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  3. It doesn't have to be perfect, special is enough. You and all your guests will have lovely memories of a great evening.
    Hope your ankle mends quickly.

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  4. Oh I am so sorry about your foot Kathy!! I hope it heals quickly and you are moving about on your own real soon.
    Your evening sounds absolutely perfect just the way it was. :0)

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  5. How awful about your foot. I do hope it heels quickly. But your party sounds like it turned out just fine. Take care, Cindy

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  6. Sorry about your foot. And glad your party turned out good. Nothing we as humans do is ever perfect so why do expect that in ourselves? It only leads to disappointment. I've found that out the hard way many times. You'd think I'd learn forever but...

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  7. I tend to be a perfectionist and have a very hard time letting go and letting others do for me...so I know what you were going through. It sounds like it turned out wonderful Kathy...you gave from your heart and it was surely appreciated. Hope your foot heals fast!
    xo
    Penny

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  8. It looks pretty darn perfect to me!! Your husband is a champ and you are a great team!!

    As much as I adore Pinterest, it does lead to a distorted view that everyone has pefect homes, clothes, hair etc. So sorry to hear about your foot...OUCH!! xoxo

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  9. Kathy, this is such a wonderful post on true hospitality. A recent sermon at my church involved hospitality and the importance of community over perfectness. I've had more people over in the past 4 weeks than I have in a year, several times impromptu with a dirty house and a very basic menu. Sounds like your party was perfect. Hope your foot mends well!

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  10. So sorry about your ankle!! I hope it heals well.

    Oh I have perfectionist tendencies that I have to self-talk myself out of all the time! It sounds like everyone had a wonderful time and you had some great helpers!

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  11. I'm sorry to hear about your foot. Take care and get well and bask in the memories of the beautiful time you spent with dear friends. I'm trying to learn to do simple things so I can relax and enjoy relationships instead of fussing about details.
    ~Adrienne~

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  12. So very true (what you said at the end about what people want). I'm sorry to hear about your foot!

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  13. Very nice! :)

    Have a beautifully blessed week...

    Jayma | http://JaymasTips.blogspot.com

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  14. OOO, I am sooo sorry your foot is broken. Bless your sweet heart.
    Now, for the party...I KNOW it was wonderful. Your adorable attitude MUST rub off on others, making the time together extra special...wind or no wind...coolness or hot...Pinterest or no....:))
    Take good care....
    xo bj

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  15. OOO, I am sooo sorry your foot is broken. Bless your sweet heart.
    Now, for the party...I KNOW it was wonderful. Your adorable attitude MUST rub off on others, making the time together extra special...wind or no wind...coolness or hot...Pinterest or no....:))
    Take good care....
    xo bj

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  16. So sorry about your foot! I've been there, and know how difficult it is to do anything except hang on to those crutches!

    Your evening sounded just lovely - you're so right about what really counts! and I love the twinkle lights along the fence.

    ::Jill

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  17. OHHHH!!! SO sorry about your foot!
    I was just reading out loud to Bert as your story unfolded.
    I like the way the party happened so sweetly and I thrive at 60 degrees myself!
    I pray for you some quick healing and lots of creative sitting :)

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  18. Hi Kathy,

    What gorgeous photos, everything looks beautiful. Yes, I have broken my ankle twice. But I learned a secret about crutches...tie your oven mitts to the handles and you can use them as pockets to carry some things.

    I hope that you have a speedy recovery. Breaking your foot is a painful thing, but maybe you'll be able to rest a bit more.

    Karen

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  19. Hi Kathy,

    Just stopped back to find out how your foot was healing. Love your new header Kathy.

    Have a lovely evening.

    Karen

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  20. Oh Kathy, I just know the evening was beautiful regardless of what you had dreamed of-just from the few photos it looks fabulous! I'm so sorry about your foot, that just stinks. I'll be praying for a speedy recovery!

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